UN - normalize

I have so much to say on the topic of trauma, from my own experience of identifying and giving space to it when it’s been systemically normalized. Trauma comes in all sorts of ways to us throughout life , some enormous and some we just write off as so small “just get over it “ kind .

I’ve seen what it’s done in violent ethnic cleansing wars, in systemic oppression to make people flee for better lives, within familial lineage and carried through in dissociative caretaker roles where trauma veils personal accountability.

I recently watched the movie “She Said” and I knew the story but watching it unfold was even more horrific. I felt heartbroken for the woman and the lack of justice in such an elite organization in America , one that all the world is apart of, filmmaking and how cowardice is built into sooo many many people and bravery an anomaly but contagious once started.

I liken it to one of my very own life traumas I witnessed growing up in a rigidly conservative ethnic environment where trauma made my participants remain locked in their own victim stage and then self righteousness-ly rooted in their youthful-survival skills which only bred more trauma; eventually we as humans innately exhibit the learned traits that traumatized us if we don’t identify and heal.

Some individual live so deep in those patterns they can not see their own monster-dom they have become. The fine line between empathy and survival as a bystander of such situations is the difference between swimming and sinking through life. Silence , fear and acceptance of what is so blatantly cruel and unjust never breeds fruitfulness of our spirit or journey. But it’s all important.

The long lasting affects of what just one horrific encounter these woman endured from this monster was devastating to witness , it ruined lifetimes and made them question everything about themselves and the safety of the world around them. I've witnessed this same destruction in my own nuclear family and the normalized cultural shaming of victims over their victimizers. It's incredible to understand now on outside looking in with every last morsel of conditioning broken for me. So many layers of why it happens and why it needs to be broken. Why it is 💯 UNACCEPTABLE. Period .

So do I believe Harvey Weinstein and the characters in my story were victims of immense darkness? , absolutely. But it’s unnecessary to empathize when you yourself are fighting the experience of their monstrous actions. It has to be.

I hate to say it but the biggest blame goes to all the silencers and “look-away-ers” who enable this to go on for so long. Systemic enabling of trauma to continue; un- breaking that programming as well. It takes one person to start and others to awaken , it's necessary so that all can join in and make real change happen 💗

Bravo to thes reporters , bravo to Ashley Judd for being the first and bravo to a country that gives room to this discovery and fight ⭐️

It is after all the journey not the false ideals of perfection that resides in silence that contribute to “happy endings”. 🙏